Personal and Interpersonal Develop in Overdone
Personal & Interpersonal Development: The Dangers of Overdoing Self-Help
Using self-help techniques and skills are an integral part of helping you develop both as an individual and as a member of the community. With the proper methods and with close adherence to the lessons and guidelines offered by most self-help guides, you will be able to improve yourself more efficiently in the long run. However, there are many instances when availing of these self-help techniques that can cause the person to go overboard. They may become too caught up in finding areas that they need to improve on that they now become blind to everything else. Caught up in attempting to develop yourself, you may unintentionally abandon other areas of development, such as in your relationships with other people.
Furthermore, relying too much on self-help guides can give you the impression that doing different things as opposed to doing the same things are always better, and can cause you to jump from one self-help fad to another, rather than focusing on the technique that suits you best and settling on it. Many people can also perceive that you become too easily adaptable with constant efforts to change yourself, and may not find that a reliable trait. Most importantly, you may get too caught up on finding ways to improve that these limit you into planning methods to develop yourself, but not finding the time to actually act on these plans.
In order to gauge whether or not you are relying too much on self-help guides, you first should ask yourself certain questions to determine the extent of your reliance on them. Are you too concentrated on learning about the newest techniques for self-help that you no longer are able to spend time actually performing them to see if they work? Do you have the tendency to switch to the newest self-help fad even though the one that you are currently practice is working well for you? Do others view your as having the habit of changing your mind too easily?
If all these are answered in the affirmative, then you may be too obsessed with self-help fads. While there is nothing wrong with taking self-help guides in general, like every other thing when taken into excess, too many attempts to develop yourself by focusing more on the methods rather than the results will not help you achieve personal and interpersonal development faster and more effectively. Some of the solutions offered for this type of problem can involve direct feedback from others. Always take the time to ask other people if you are changing your mind too frequently over a certain matter, and ask them to warn you if you are beginning to overdo it again. Always try to gauge the reactions of others on the things that you do, and then try to figure out any behavior patterns that may emerge during these. Also, it is necessary t first concentrate on one kind of self-help technique for a certain number of days or weeks, and then finally assessing whether or not this has proven to be very effective in your self-development. If it does, then you do not need to try out every new self-help method that comes out.
It is also very possible to combine one or two self-help techniques and assess them in tandem. Taking on too many, however, such as three of four guides, are not considered very effective. It is being able to select the ones that work best for you, and then sticking to it, that makes the methods effective in the first place. Self-help is generally a long-term process, and changing from one fad to another will only hinder rather than help your personal growth.